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Everything in our life has a narrative attached to it. A story. Things don’t happen in isolation, but are interconnected and fit within a storyline. This is also true for sex. [pullquote]Sex isn’t just an act, but one that fits within a narrative.[/pullquote] The narrative that God puts sex to is a sub story of covenant love between husband and wife pointing to the ultimate story of Christ’s covenant love to his church (see Ephesians 5).

Porn is not just watching people (or whatever) have sex. Period. It’s not that simple.  [pullquote position=”right”]Watching porn is really an act of delighting in a narrative of covenant unfaithfulness, covenant infidelity, intimacy without covenant, etc.[/pullquote] For that reason, porn use points to a much deeper problem than just wanting to see sexual acts or satisfy a physical craving.

There’s something wrong with us that we can look at a woman that we aren’t in covenant with and get delight out of thinking about any sexual contact. It’s not just that men give too much notice to beautiful women – the root of our heart problem goes beyond that. [pullquote]When a man is ensnared to lust, it’s because that man loves the idea of intimacy that isn’t within a marital covenant.[/pullquote] He loves the idea of sexuality experienced without covenant. That’s the kind of narrative you have to embrace in order to love the perverted sexual act attached to it. At it’s root, there’s something very anti-gospel about our sexual lusts.

So How Do We Fight?

We fight it with the gospel. [pullquote position=”right”]The gospel shows us the real narrative to our sex by shining light on Christ’s intimacy with his church.[/pullquote] As this gospel connects to our heart by faith and meditation, we grow in our love for the real narrative that God has connected sex to. The greater I love the narrative that sex rightly belongs in (covenant joy and union to Christ), the more I will hate porn as a parasite and counterfeit alternative to the narrative of pure sex. I can never truly love the narrative of the gospel and at the same time love adultery, fornication and every other form of sexual perversion.

Prayer

Lord, help us to fall deeper in love with the gospel narrative that gives sex it’s meaning and it’s fullness! Expel every sexual lust in my heart that thrives off of delight in fairy tales about what sex means. Fill my vision with Christ & his gospel!

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